Why do we Cross dress? - Robyn's got an insight

You know, cross dressing, with me tends to happen in cycles, sometimes I want to do it more than others, and sometimes I have no interest in doing it at all. But that begs the question what is the fascination with cross-dressing? Is it do with the fact that we are trying to find something in ourselves that we are not finding in our partner. Or perhaps something that is just missing from our lives? Take this for instance, some men have a fascination with seeing a woman with a nice figure dressed a short skirt and high heels, and best of all the fishnet stockings. Your partner on the other hand, doesn't portray this image, or fulfil this fantasy, you do not want to be unfaithful, perhaps it's not your nature. Cross dressing for some people then, it would seem, is just a way of living this fantasy, without necessarily having to be unfaithful. Or perhaps it is just a safer environment for being able to fulfil one's Own fantasy of portraying that image of which we desire within our partners or indeed, more often within ourselves. That last comment needs expanding on, To fulfil one's Own fantasy, do some men get turned on by the fact that they are able to betray a feminine image? Some will achieve this very successfully, whilst others will achieve it to a certain extent. Perhaps for some it's just a form of sexual relief, for others they seem to just one what to see what it would be like to leave as a woman for a period the time, knowing that they can return to their normal masculine self- just by taking off the make-up, the wig, the female clothes, etc.
 

From a more psychological point of view, When it comes to cross dressing the psychology behind the reasons why we do it is very complicated, For the individual concerned is really the only person that can work out why we do it, with or without counselling from a 3rd party. Perhaps we where just born this way! There is after all, a school of thought that defines the biological reason's for cross dressing through to gender orientation by explaining the reasons away in scientific terms. This theory defines that our gender is determined biologically prior to birth.

Let’s take a quick biology lesson. Life for all of us begins in the womb, prior to conception we exist as a single egg comprising amongst other things, an X chromosome. The male sperm that impregnates the egg can consist of either an X or Y chromosome, this determines the sex, XX = female, and XY = male. Should and X Y chromosome combination result, the child will be born as a Male. During the early stages of pregnancy the foetus will normally receive a large dose of male hormones from the pregnant mother. This putt’s into place all of the biological mechanisms that will cause the unborn child to develop as a male. However, studies have shown that mothers tend to have male hormones in that their bodies at slightly different levels during pregnancy, this means that during the earlier stages of pregnancy, a higher or lower dose of male hormones can affect the way in which the unborn child develops biologically. From this, it should be no news to you that, we all have combinations of male and female hormones within us, it is this balance of male and female forms that determine the way we are. So, it would not be out the sight of logic for to assume that if a male receives too low a dose of male hormones during this crucial stage of development, he might at a later age find that he has a very strong feminine side. After all this theory explains that we are all the essentially female to start off with.

Then of course there is always the psychological influences exerted upon us during the early years of developments after birth, those of our parents, our families, our schooling, other social environments, and the influences of those who we befriend as we get older. I believe that the mechanisms that define one's own gender are put into place well before birth, only the social environment to which we are brought into will really have any effect on the way we develop further. If you think about it, social roles within society are often attributed to either the male or the female depending upon the role, you know what I'm mean! You would not necessarily see a female lumberjack, because socially this is seen as the masculine role, similarly, you would not expect the male to take up sewing as a vocation. These are social behaviours exerted upon all of society; by the way society attributes masculine and feminine to strength and weakness. So you can see from this that the majority of was will develop as society dictates, this would seem to override the biological principles discussed above. But not true, society might dictate the way that things should be however we did not always listen to our peers or do as they say, or believe what they tell us. We are all exposed to other social environments to a greater or lesser extent, some environments our parents will shield us from. But as we get older, we get more independent, as we get more independent, we spend more time doing the things and being in environments that are pleasing to us. The point I am trying to make here is, that our gender is defined, along with our personality, along with all of our strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes, from the time that we were born right through puberty to adolescence. There is no clear answer as to why we develop as transgender or normal, it is the result of many complicated biological and sociological factors.

  For me, I can remember at a very young age, probably about the time of puberty I had a fascination with legs, and more specifically legs that were covered in nylon, oh yes! That's what started for me. I've had a fascination with legs, specifically stockings and nylons, from an early age. I was probably I about 11 years old. When ever I had a private moment I could fulfil this need for myself, and after all, I do have a great pair of legs, even if I do say so myself. And from here as I got older it naturally progressed, and as my interests in women got stronger. Look at it this way, it was the 80’s after all, you know all the great music (remember the gender influences on Pop of the time) the fashions of the Eighties, that typical nicely done well-made up face. Hell the Eighties were great, and in some of the ways that I dress nowadays is influenced by this wonderful era. Although many 80’s icons stood up for being different, and most of them had homosexual tendencies, this has caused a socially distorted view of cross dressing, in that if you cross dress you must be gay. This is simply not true; the majority of us are straight men, with a strong feminine side. But society dictates this homosexual or perverted nature, and does not accept us for what we are, just normal men who like to dress as women. Thank goodness for the Internet, Jerry Springer, and the likes, because now we have a strong voice. It is time for society to lay down their inbred misconceptions and accept that we are normal, we are here and we are here to stay. 
 

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